Can You Be Happy NOW?
By Ted Behr, M. Ed., CPCC, ACC
“…with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are…the pursuit of Happiness.” I am sure that you recognize these words from the Declaration of Independence. But what does it mean to pursue happiness? The definition of pursue is “To follow in an effort to overtake or capture; chase.” So, to pursue happiness means to chase it in order to capture it. The implication is that it’s out there somewhere. We have to find it. We have to catch up to it and capture it.
With that perspective, happiness is mostly in the future. We say “I will be happy when _____” Fill in the blank: “When I have a new job.” “When I have more money.” “When I have a relationship.” “When I lose 30 lbs.” And getting to your “when” might make you happy, at least for a short while.
But what about being happy, right NOW? In this video, Nataly Kogan, the founder of Happier.com, talks about how you can be happier now.
Here are a couple of thought-provoking quotes:
“Happiness is not having what you want. Happiness is wanting what you have.” – Yogi Amrit Desai
“We don’t laugh because we are happy. We are happy because we laugh.” – William James